You may have heard grown-ups speak of their “New Year’s Resolution.”
A resolution is just something they hope to achieve in the year ahead. It can be a simple goal like reading more books, or something harder like learning how to cook.
Setting goals is great, but we must remember that it’s OK if we don’t always succeed and not let ourselves feel too bad about it.
A little disappointment is fine. It can motivate us work a bit harder, or force us to take smaller steps towards reaching the goal. But the success or failure of the goal is not really the most important thing. Usually, it is the work we put into it that gives us the true reward.
Have an amazing year in 2018!
Make it a Great Year
When making New Year’s resolutions, many people decide on goals like eating better, exercising more or saving money. This year, it may be helpful to consider adding some resolutions for our mental well-being and family health—in particular, think of how to increase our relationship with our children.
Here are some ideas to help kick-start the creative process of what some goals may look like:
Be Present. Commit to spending one-on-one time each day with each child.
Worry Less. Keeping kids safe should be a priority, but don’t let your worries about all the large and small highly sensationalized harm that exists out there drive your life. The overwhelming odds are with you. Instead, find ways to make your kid’s world safer and let them actively explore what’s around them.
Listen More; Talk at Less. Ask “What do you think? What are you feeling? Tell me about it. What would you do?”
Negotiate Less; Explain More. Our kids deserve to know the thinking behind our decisions and expectations, but should not be equal partners at the bargaining table. We are the parents.
Write a Little More. Get in the habit of writing notes of encouragement, love, recognition, responsibility and daily appreciation of life.
Expect a Little More. In the new year, expect more from your children, like good behavior, responsibility, manners, kindness and all of the goodness that lies within your kids.
Expect a Little Less. Be OK with a little less constant scheduling and enrichment filled days. Slow down, you move too fast. Children need a lot of slow to grow. Create a family schedule that is balanced and realistic.
Connect More. Take steps to maintain friendships and stay connected with family, the community, those less fortunate and the natural world.
Happy 2018, Tucson!